"netMichelle", of course, is just an alias, an alias used by a provider to shield and define her identity. Only once did I ever encounter a provider who used her own name. Many gave considerable thought to their "stage name," and some liked their stage names better than their given names. “
Nonetheless, in the course of my adventures, providers, including
If you would like to read netMichelle's own words, as she chooses to publish them, follow this link to her blog: http://www.blogger.com/i.g?invID=3976683168665327005 In her case, as in all other adventures I describe, I will try to provide Internet links, so that you can form a fuller picture, if you want.
I should also acknowledge that I owe netMichelle much: besides many memorable personal experiences, she is responsible for my first encounter with a blog. Before I responded to her invitation to view her blog, I was a virgin in this respect as well. In fact, so much of what I will confess is the experience of a virgin in the wide world of sex in
Left to my own language choice, I wouldn't call this behavior a "hobby." To my sensibilities, "hobby" as a descriptor of having sex with a professional escort is much like calling death "passing away." I don't like such linguistic pleasantries, never have. (...maybe, because both my mother & father mainly spoke in euphuisms before they passed away.)
"Hobbyist" is a term coined and perpetuated by the participants themselves. Which men and which escorts, I will try to make clear.
But, before I write more, let me disclaim: Sex for money is generally illegal in
"Escort" is an euphuism, too. In my experience, women hired by hobbyist seldom escort them anywhere, except around the bed. In fact, this is one of the subtexts of my journal, since I was, by many of my companions' own accounts, a rare bird who wined and dined the women with whom I had paid to have sex.
For those who judge such commerce by a standard of value gotten for value paid, this will seem like a poor practice, so long as the value gotten is only measured by the minutes spend actively engaged in sex, unless, of course, like me you think that foreplay is part of sex and understand, as I believe, that the best sex involves both mind and body. (Not thought, mind you, that’s an anti-aphrodisiac, but feelings – those are indispensable for good sex.)
Although fairly conventional in my sexual behavior -- only dabbling my toes, mephorically speaking, in some fringe behavior -- I am reporting from the fringes of the hobbyist / escort experience. Women who I hired -- by virtue of my character, behavior, and choices -- all come from a very narrow subset of the universe of sex providers.
The escorts I saw did not fit within the traditional definition of “whore,” although one provider, netMichelle, about whom more will be written later, called herself "a whore," "a hooker." She did this, I think, not because the description was more accurate then "escort," which only in a certain sense it was, but because she loved to experience the reaction of the men or women to whom she responded "I'm a whore." when asked "So, what do you do?"
In the wide range of behavior -- and there is a very wide range – characterizing hobbyist/escort behavior, there are a number of terms which help define where in the spectrum my hobby took me.
A “high volume provider,” just as the name applies, is someone who has sex with as many men as their market and time permits. These women tended to sell their services in short time blocks, minimum of a half-hour, maximum of two hours, working out of a location visited by their clients, whose appointment was booked through an agency or service. At the very far end of this spectrum, there is probably not too much difference between the streetwalker/prostitute and the escort, except that the escort sold her time, not a specific service. Usually, only after money changed hands would there be any conversation or indication of what services might follow; even then escorts, unlike streetwalkers are not likely to be as up front talking about specific acts to follow. Escorts are fairly sophisticated and well conditioned to law enforcement entrapment techniques.
Except for my very first experience I never knowingly had experience with a high volume provider, although one of my early favorites, MissyK, evolved practice – professional words do seem to apply -- to the point where she is a high volume provider within a limited time window. But, generally speaking, the women I see are very selective and very limited in the number of appointments they take in a day or even in a week. At the top end of the food chain,
Conditioned by law enforcement not to talk about sex, the hobbyist/escort business evolved its own language to imply what might happen during the time bought. If you want sex then the operative language is “full service” or “gfe,” short for “girl friend experience.” There’s also the more rarified “pse,” “porn star experience.” I am still not entirely clear what the differences really are, because “girl friends” are very different; some will gladly do everything a porn star will do. I never consciously sought out pse providers, although several, including MissyK and netMichelle would gladly explore all manner of safe sex, the more unusual the better.
netMichelle and I were friends, not simply client/escort. This is something else true of escorts, not of whores. Many of the escorts I knew exposed themselves, not just their sex organs. This was a function of several factors, both involving who they were and who I am.
It might come as no surprise to learn that these “friendships” are very fragile and almost invariably come to a quick end. Such was the case of my friendship with Nikki Colter. My friendship with netMichelle, much to my regret, also went through a rocky period, but since has recovered.
My quarrel with netMichelle was the causality of a menage a trois gone awry: lilyJune, another sex provider -- "provider" is another more apt descriptor than "escort" -- bruised netMichelle's feelings. "She didn't even kiss me, when she fucked me with her dildo," netMichelle tried to explain, when I questioned her seemingly hostile behavior.
Because I defended lilyJune from netMichelle's unprofessional, public attack, netMichelle severed our friendship. This is what she wrote:
I apologize for nothing. If friendships are this tenuous and require
demanded apologies like faked orgasms then this friendship will easily break
in the future. I tell it how I see it. I am climbing this mountain and if
you don't like what I write about then don't click on it.
Yes, escorts, providers, hookers & whores have feelings about sex. They are real women, not caricatures; they are not other than us. They are like you and me, certainly me, in more ways then not. Having subsequently made up with netMichelle, I know, notwithstanding her bravado, netMichelle felt lose and regret concerning the end of our friendship, just as any friend would.
My story, the story I will tell in this blog, is not